please, being an asshole does not mean I am incapable of seeing error in my actions or being unable to converse over an issue rather than dismissing it. me knowing peabug does not have a thing to do with it cause pea could have spoken to me about it outside of tumblr and chose not to, i could have chosen to answer privately… i chose not to. me apologizing where i have made errors is not uncommon. I’m not particularly being defensive either. i simply took on board what i was given and apologized where it was necessary but not where i felt i was within my rights to do as i pleased. being an asshole is not a 24/7 job and while I am more than happy to put morons on blast I’m also fine with having enough maturity to handle altercation with some decency.
this is what i mean by it is a personal problem. what you have taken my joke as is entirely different from what was intended and i have NO control over that. therefore the issue begins and ends with you. i was not invalidating a mental illness nor the trigger. the joke itself was specifically focused on the manner in which it presented and how this element in my own head looked. at no point did i say ” these people do not need / deserve this help” at no point did i outwardly deny the issue in fact it was the reason i stepped back and apologized about the positioning of my post creating this misunderstanding. but overall things that you are reading into you are taking in whatever way you feel despite my constant repetition that this is not what i had intended and as i said there is nothing i can do about that hence THAT in itself is a personal problem. you saw what you saw in it , it is upsetting you. i have apologized and explained my intentions you have not accepted. therefore beyond that point ( not to be dismissive ) what can i do? I stood my ground where i personally felt necessary and i apologized where i feel i was in the wrong so what more do you intend to squeeze out of me by continuing was the point of the previous post. granted it is an important social issue… but from the point you continued beyond my apology and explanation it was no longer about the social issue it was personal. your words were ” i dont see the point in the joke then” ” i dont see why its not a problem” and went onto explain why my joke is reinforcing invalidation and discouraging help and that things i say are problematic whether i intend them to be or not. all of these things i have no control over at this point, you are not obliged to accept my apology fair dues. you dont have to believe my explanation fair dues. but i gave all that i could and beyond that point i am only repeating myself hence my response that this is a personal problem. like i said before i can only take this into consideration in future i really don’t know what else you want from me beyond that.
well then unfortunately I can’t help you there. what you have given me is a personal problem. i have both apologized , explained the basis of my joke and why i made it as well as pointed out that the intentions of the joke were not as they seemed. the factors of how the joke are perceived within any given social climate , or whether things can be problematic whether i intend them to or not , the fact that you don’t see the point of my joke nor why my joke is not a problem. all of these are personal problems that you or anyone else who feels that way will take on. going beyond this point considering i have laid everything about the situation bare is senseless because i have already explained everything i can. responding with “well people will still see it as offensive” is entirely up to them. ive already stated i am not apologizing for a misunderstanding and my intentions as it were were misconstrued. the fact you’re taking that as “reinforcing” the issue is entirely up to you and any other individual who has a problem with it. whether i say my intentions were there or not chances are will not sway how you feel so it is what it is unfortunately all i can do is take it on the chin and try to bear it in mind the next time i decide to make a joke.
Because this IS a legitimate issue. there is certainly no denying that in any way shape or form. however the joke i made while not a particularly nice joke was positioned on a post that was intended to aid people. this resulted in my joke being misconstrued as “Fuck people who suffer from disabilities” which is not the joke at all. the joke does not focus on the disabled nor the support. the focus on the joke is about the way the support is often presented. i could have posted this on any posts of the same nature that post just happened to be the one i ran upon as the idea came to mind. clearly not everyone found it funny nor fully understood the focus of the joke in question and have taken FURTHER offense to my less than stellar 10 minute response. so id say I’m simply digging a hole. I find it more sensible to apologize and explain yourself than to fight fire with gasoline.
thank you for your polite response. id explain why you missed the point of my joke and further the point of my 10 minute long explanation but this is no longer necessary. I apologize for the positioning of my joke on the “help post” as this is essentially what lead to the misunderstanding, it was irresponsible on my part and somewhat insensitive however i will not apologize for making a joke whether it is in favor of some or not.
well i am sorry that this is the case, and i apologize for your discomfort. again i apologize for the positioning of the joke but I will not apologize for making a joke on my blog whether people grasp the point of it or not. I am glad people are looking out for those who suffer these problems thats great. but the joke was simply about the way this is often portrayed in such a way that it reminds me of a worrying mother fearful of letting her child play outside and the joke is simply me depicting the way these posts make me imagine the many residents of this website. as i stated before i did not alter the post in any way, nor did i tamper with the information presented however it was irresponsible of me to place my post there but the reality of it is i could easily have placed that on any other post of similar nature, that just happened to be the post i saw at that moment in time and so i rolled with it. poor choice but thats life. i probably would have gotten similar response regardless of whether i posted it on another post or standalone so it is what it is and people are welcome to view it as they choose. i stand humbled , educated but I am not going to apologize for a misunderstanding. plain and simple.
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